This has been a journey for sure.
From back in November when my husband and I first started talking about selling the house and moving
To making the decision to go for it in January
To listing it in February and having it sold in a weekend.
To actually packing it all up, moving out and not actually having a home to move to just yet.
Knowing our kids still had a couple months left of virtual school we decided that we would take the opportunity and use this time to travel and visit family and friends, new places, and old places we love.
Maui was our first stop and while uprooting has it's challenges, this place is magical and we were quickly reminded why we love it so much.
So grateful we took the really scary leap and accepted the challenges of nomad life as a family of five and the extended periods of time that I spend parenting solo so my husband can be at work thousands of miles away from us.
Leaving Hawaii today for our next adventure and we already can't wait to come back! Aloha! 🌺...
Been wanting a more effective routine?
A lot of times we just keep doing the same thing because it worked once, it works for others, or we think its the way we are "supposed" to do it.
But the most effective routines are those that come from us
1. Having clarity over what it is that we are truly trying to achieve with our routine
2. Having a realistic strategy on how to achieve it
3. Creating consistency by managing the mind drama that comes up when it comes to regularly implementing the routine, or iterating it as things change.
The most effective routine is always going to be the one that actually moves the needle to where YOU want to be.
And that is going to be different for everyone.
Try it out.
Look at your current routine through the lens of these 3 things " Clarity, Strategy, Consistency"
and see if it adds up.
If not, create a new one with these 3 steps as your guide.
I can help you with this in the 30 Day Balance Reboot.
I've even got an old podcast episode that goes into the topic deeper.
" 3 Step Framework for Making Anything More Successful"
You can find links for both the program and the podcast at the website link in my Instagram profile 💛...
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1. Take the time to truly know your priorities, your desires (goals or outcomes) within those priorities, but also what essential things need to happen to truly achieve that. Be honest with yourself, what is truly needed and what you really want and why
2. Make decisions ahead of time based on #1 with how and what you will you spend your time and energy on
3. Clear space in your day, week and life in general for your #2. Really intentionally set time aside for it to get done and have a place in your life.
4. When you plan your day, #1-3 will help you create structure, but flexibility within that structure is what makes being a mom entrepreneur possible. Build in flexibility into your day. (I teach you how to do this)
5. Even if you do #1-4 perfectly, the thing that will get you every time is the mind drama that comes up when something wants to derail us, the list of "shoulds" starts to play on repeat, or the guilt creeps in. It's the mind drama that keeps us stuck, spinning or unable to be consistent.
Learning the foundational tools to deal with the mind drama in an effective way is key in my opinion. Everything else helps, but that is the glue that keeps it all together.
If you want to learn how to do that (as well as go more in depth in creating effective time as a mom entrepreneur) you can get your spot in the 30 Day Balance Reboot and learn just how to do this for yourself in just 30 days.
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Hit that reset button after a really hard year for moms. Especially if you have been running businesses from home.
This does more than teach you how to juggle it all.
It teaches you the tools in order to manage the emotional, mental and physical demands of motherhood and entrepreneurship so that you can feel more balanced in your life.
It helps you create REAL balance. Balance in your mind and in your day.
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Believing that you are “supposed” to do it all, “should” do it all or should “be able” to do it all, or even that you “have” to do it all is easily one of the most sneaky destructive beliefs many clients and moms / entrepreneurs everywhere have.
There is no upside.
You’re either feeling terrible because you are failing to meet this expectation or feeling terrible trying to meet this expectation.
Either way- you’re feeling terrible and still not achieving what you want.
We think if we can do it all we will finally feel better.
Like we aren’t failing or that we are successful.
We think we have to wait to think those things about ourselves and feel good about ourselves.
Or we think we need permission to stop doing it all, or someone else to step up and start doing more.
But really the first step is letting go of the expectation and the belief.
Just that alone is going to create more space for you to intentionally choose what and how you spend your time and energy on.
Just what is truly important to you.
Letting go of a deep belief can be hard. Our brains don’t believe it right away.
A good thought to try and replace it with is “it’s possible I don’t have to do all of this”
“It’s possible that all of these things aren’t necessary”
Which one do you WANT in your life?
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Managing time is not a thing.
Managing our minds, our emotions and our actions with how WE spend our time is the actual work.
No time sheet or routine alone is gonna do it for you.
No cute planner or fancy app either.
You know this if you have tried a bunch of different ways to do something only for it not to last, or not work at all for you.
Feeling tons of resistance to the plan that you said you wanted, or feeling scattered and overwhelmed at the lack of direction if you decide planning just isn't for you.
It's true, there ARE plans that make it easier to manage your mind. But learning how to manage your mind and emotions and honor yourself is still the key to making anything work.
When you do that, you can make anything work for you.
Then it's just a matter of finding what's easiest for you.
I always start my clients off with learning the skill set of directing their mind and processing their thoughts and feelings first.
Then I give them my tried and true framework specifically designed for mom entrepreneurs running their businesses from home.
Because we need a different kind of schedule and ability to be focused, follow through and still have the flexibility needed. And I believe I have combined and tweaked all the good psychology tricks and hacks and guru ideas to find the easiest most complete way of doing that.
And I am going to be offering an easy way for any mom entrepreneur to learn how to do this for themselves in the next couple weeks!
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This alone can make a huge difference.
Set the metaphorical balls down in front of you and choose again what you actually want to include in your
You don't have to juggle it.
You can eliminate it.
You can delegate it.
You can make it easier.
you can send it on it's way and do something completely different instead.
It's your choice. It's always your choice. Even when it doesn't feel like it.
Want to go deeper into this topic?
Episode 33 " Allowing Space for What You Want"
on the 🎙️ Balanced and Free Mom Boss Podcast is a great episode to dive into on just how to do that.
You can grab the link to the podcast in my bio or do a quick search where you listen to your podcasts....
Often times we use our past to determine what we are or aren't capable of.
It's where we look to find confidence in something.
Where we make decisions on our future from.
But our past is done. Our past self evolved the very next day.
Our past is just a collection of thoughts our current selves are thinking about it.
Your past cannot tell you what will come. Or what you can do or cannot do.
If 2020 has taught us anything is that what we think our future will look like may not be anything we could have ever imagined.
It's normal that we do this.
Our brain uses patterns and already formed neural pathways to inform decision making. It's just being efficient and trying to keep you safe.
It of course wants to find evidence. The only evidence it has is your past. It's the only thing that has already happened.
But everything you have ever done, you have never done before. Until you did.
Your brain, left undirected forgets that. Because now it has a long list of things you have learned and done.
But it is still as capable as it was as a baby learning to walk. Or becoming a mother. Or launching a business.
Your future is not determined by your past self.
I want to encourage you to learn the skill of borrowing from your future self and having self- confidence over regular confidence.
You can learn more about this in Episode 25: "End Self- Sabotage from Your Future Self" on the Balanced and Free Mom Boss Podcast.
You can find the link to the podcast in the profile. ⬆️...
You ever feel like you just want to hit pause for a minute even though the world keeps spinning on?
Catch your breath?
Take in the moment?
Even a pandemic that forced the world to slow down, moms seemed to have even more thrown at them.
If you feel like you really want to hit the reset button, I’ve got something good coming for you at the end of this month!
It’s gonna help you hit that reset button for yourself, even if your world around you (your kids or business) don’t seem to get the memo to slow down. 😂😂
It doesn’t matter if you don’t have time right now, feel overwhelmed or are still trying to figure out what life looks like right now- this is going to help with all of that without adding another burden to your plate!
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Seems counter-intuitive but it really is the answer in many situations.
We unintentionally pile on things because of our thinking.
"we have to"
"we should do"
"we need to"
"they said I should /need to"
"no one else will do it"
" I'm the only who does it right"
"this is too important"
"other people take too long"
"this person does"
"I should be able to"
"it has to be done"
Our list of things to do or expectations grows with each thought.
How do you combat this?
Also with your thinking.
Episode 28: "Essentialism and Figuring Out What You Should Be Doing" on the Balanced and Free Mom Boss Podcast
dives deeper into this topic. You can find the link to listen to the podcast at the link in the profile....
There is nothing wrong with creating free time for yourself
or saying no to something
or spending your time and energy intentionally.
Staying busy is not the sign of success or value.
Avoiding ourselves by staying busy or pushing ourselves to the point of burn out to try and achieve something is what will break you.
You can learn a little more on how you can open yourself to taking a break if you need it or even before you need it without the guilt or falling behind on your to do list on my podcast:
The Balanced and Free Mom Boss
Episodes 27 - 29 are great episodes to listen to on this particular topic!
Grab the link to the podcast right in my bio, or do a quick search for
Balanced and Free Mom Boss wherever you listen to your podcasts.
If this post resonated with you, you will LOVE the podcast!...
You are allowed to say no to expectations.
You are allowed to say no to new fads, trends or platforms.
You are allowed to say no to the client that just isn't a good fit.
You are allowed to say no to business models that don't work for you
parenting styles that don't align with you
advice given ( even if you asked for it)
you are even allowed to say no to yourself.
No when you want to quit, or give in.
No when you want to make something harder on yourself later by avoiding it right now.
You can so no to the hustle and the grind.
And you know what?
You can say "NO" and still be wildly successful (in fact you may find that you are more so)
you can still be an amazing mom, wife, woman...
and you just might find that saying no makes you more of the person that you truly want to be. ♥️
For more on this topic and many more- that give support for mom entrepreneurs running business from home
🎙️ the Balanced and Free Mom Boss Podcast.
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It doesn't matter if you are moving quickly if you are headed in the wrong direction.
It will take you longer when you have to turn back around.
Take a minute to know where you are going and why you want to get there.
What are trying to achieve or accomplish?
Is the way that you are going about trying to do that efficient and sustainable?
Are your actions intentional and purposeful or are they just meant to make you feel busy and productive?
Is there an easier way to get where you want to be?
A lot of times when I coach people the very first step is just really understanding what it is that they are trying to achieve.
Most don't really know. We have all just gotten busy in motherhood and entrepreneurship that the goal becomes just keeping our head above water.
But is that really a goal? Is that a strategy? Or is it just a survival tactic that we hope will work long enough that we can catch our breath?
If you have felt the hustle, the burn out, the metaphorical drowning - I want to invite you to slow down for second and ask yourself what all the action you are taking or emotional and mental energy that you are expending trying to get you toward?
And then ask yourself if it's getting you closer, or actually moving you further away from what you actually want?
You can dive into topics like these and more that have to do with the juggle and the struggle of balancing motherhood and entrepreneurship from home at
🎙️ the Balanced and Free Mom Boss Podcast.
The link to the podcast in in the profile bio or you can do a search for the name Balanced and Free Mom Boss wherever you listen to you podcasts.
Seems like an innocent thought, but I often see it used as a way to hold ourselves back.
When something feels hard.
When we are afraid to commit.
When we are believing growth or change will take away from our family.
When we are just plain tired and don't want to do something.
All of the sudden listening to little Johnny speak at nauseum about all the different avengers powers feels like a "good mom" badge to be earned and takes first priority and that big work project can wait.
In fact there is probably a load of laundry you should tackle before that, and Jane needs new ballet slippers. Probably should search online for those too before you start that work project...
See where I am going here?
Now, let me be clear. I personally believe family is my highest priority. That is not what is in question here.
But we gotta check ourselves and be honest when we are using them to avoid being uncomfortable in other areas of our life and business.
If our family really is our greatest priority, then is it fair to use them as a scapegoat to hold ourselves back?
You get decide that one for you. I personally found I had sneaky resentment anytime I told myself I couldn’t do something because of my kids or role as mom. It happens for clients I’ve coached as well.
If you think you may have unintentionally been doing this at times (heck who hasn't - you're perfectly normal)
The Balanced and Free Mom Boss Podcast dives deeper into topics like this and is all about balancing the role as mom, home and business owner.
You can give it a listen at the link in the profile or wherever you listen to your podcasts....
It seems pretty straightforward right?
Yet so many mom entrepreneurs start off with this as the main reason they choose to build businesses from home, only to be overwhelmed scratching their heads wondering where it all went wrong.
When did they lose themselves to demands of being a mom and a business owner.
When did the two worlds merge together in an inter twined mess of non stop meeting of demands and to-do lists?
When did the mental and emotional load become unbearable and exhausting?
When did it start where all you do is "do" and somehow it still never seems to be "enough" There is still something that fell through the cracks or left unattended.
And it seems the message and answer is " you need to do more if you want to be..." fill in the blank
a good mom
for your kids to be healthy and happy
for your business to thrive, grow or scale
hit your revenue goal
It's okay if you find yourself here and didn't really ever want to be.
I can help you get your dream back of raising your family and your business with the flexibility and ease that you dreamed of. With the income you desire. With the time you thought you would have. To spend how you want, not how others demand of it from you.
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