Seems like an innocent thought, but I often see it used as a way to hold ourselves back.
When something feels hard.
When we are afraid to commit.
When we are believing growth or change will take away from our family.
When we are just plain tired and don’t want to do something.
All of the sudden listening to little Johnny speak at nauseum about all the different avengers powers feels like a “good mom” badge to be earned and takes first priority and that big work project can wait.
In fact there is probably a load of laundry you should tackle before that, and Jane needs new ballet slippers. Probably should search online for those too before you start that work project…
See where I am going here?
Now, let me be clear. I personally believe family is my highest priority. That is not what is in question here.
But we gotta check ourselves and be honest when we are using them to avoid being uncomfortable in other areas of our life and business.
If our family really is our greatest priority, then is it fair to use them as a scapegoat to hold ourselves back?
You get decide that one for you. I personally found I had sneaky resentment anytime I told myself I couldn’t do something because of my kids or role as mom. It happens for clients I’ve coached as well.
If you think you may have unintentionally been doing this at times (heck who hasn’t – you’re perfectly normal)
The Balanced and Free Mom Boss Podcast dives deeper into topics like this and is all about balancing the role as mom, home and business owner.